Should I Eat This? A Gluten-Free Decision Framework

You’re staring at a plate of food… 
Or maybe a label… 
Or someone just told you, “Yeah, it should be fine.” 

And you pause. 

Because you don’t really know if it’s safe. 

And now you’re stuck in that moment of… 
“Do I eat this… or not?” 

You don’t want to be rude. 
You don’t want to overthink it. 
But you also don’t want to get sick. 

So how do you actually decide? 

In this episode, I’m going to walk you through a simple gluten-free decision framework you can use in real time—  so you don’t feel stuck, second-guessing, or pressured in those moments. 

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Transcript

Personal Disclaimer And Setup

Carrie Saunders 0:00

Quick reminder before we get started on this episode. This podcast is based on my personal experiences and isn't medical advice. You're staring at a plate of food or maybe a label where someone just told you, yeah, it should be fine, and you pause, because you don't really know if it's safe. And now you're stuck in that moment of, do I eat this or not? You don't want to be rude, you don't want to overthink it, but you also don't want to get sick. So how do you actually decide? In this episode, I'm going to walk you through a simple gluten-free decision framework you can use in real time so you don't feel stuck, second guessing, or pressured in those moments. And by the end, you'll have a clear way to decide what's worth the risk and what's not. Let's dive in. Welcome to the Gluten Free Engineer Podcast. I'm your host, Kiri Saunders. In 2011, I was diagnosed with celiac disease, a moment that changed everything. But I was determined not to let it hold me back. With my two engineering degrees, I set out to reverse engineer the gluten-free lifestyle, breaking down recipes, safety tips, travel hacks, and everything in between to rebuild a life I love. Whether you have celiac disease, gluten intolerance, or simply choose to live gluten-free, this podcast is for you. Join me each week as we simplify the gluten-free lifestyle, make it fun, and prove that you don't have to miss out on anything. Welcome back to the show. Today we're talking about Should I Eat This? A gluten-free decision framework. This is designed to help you make that decision in the moment. And it's not just about knowledge. I feel like a lot of us listening already have a lot of knowledge, but it can be about the decision pressure. It just adds layers to it. It adds social pressure, it adds uncertainty, it adds hunger. You know, sometimes you're in these situations and you're really hungry and you've got to decide what to eat now. And it's very normal for all of this to happen. Sometimes it's not that we just don't know. It's that we're just trying to make a decision in a moment, and in a moment that there has pressure, which can make our decision in any situation, doesn't matter whether it's over gluten-free stuff, it can make our decisions a lot harder to logic through and get the right decision out there. So why does this feel so hard? When you're in a moment like this, you're trying to balance your safety, your social comfort, as well as your convenience. And people around you may minimize what you need, you know, you you needing to be gluten-free. Your brain is trying to avoid risk, it's trying to avoid awkwardness. Because this isn't just a food decision, it's a pressure-filled moment. It really is in your life. When I'm unsure about something, I run it through a simple three-part check. The first step I do is I do a do I know it's safe question. It's not, do I think it's safe? It's not, they said probably it's safe, but it's are the ingredients verified? Is the prep method known? This last part's very important to me because I'm celiac, so those celiacs out there, that's very important as well. If you're gluten intolerant, you know, that might not be as uh necessary for you if you're not super sensitive. So phrase it is if I don't know, I treat it like I don't know. We don't want to treat it like it might be okay. So if you don't know if it's safe, then you treat it like it's not safe. What about the risk of cross-contamination? That's step number two, I think about. Has it been prepared on shared surfaces? Shared utensils? Is it a buffet? Is it gluten-free but in a mixed kitchen? If it's a buffet, are the gluten-free items first in line? So there's less risk of cross-contact. Think about the order here of how things are being served. What about the utensils? That also is a cross-contact problem if people are sharing utensils across dishes that are gluten-free versus glutened. And sometimes people will do that in a social situation. I've seen it even though there might be a utensil in each item. So one time I was at a friend's house and they were having a little get-together, and you know, there were some things that were gluten-free there, but I went after the chips that were gluten-free, and they were behind the buns. So what happened, I got sick. So even though something might not be gluten-free, the order of it being, you know, appearing in the line of food can very greatly make a difference. Also, one time I was, you know, eating at one of my friend's houses too, and while they were very careful at everything, you know, a cast iron skill was used. I kind of thought about it. I thought, well, it's probably not too big a deal. I got a tiny bit sick. It wasn't too big of a it wasn't terrible how I'll say that. But I did get a tiny bit sick, and since I'm celiac a little bit, can you know damage my system? So thinking about, you know, the order of items, what order they are, as well as what things are cooked in. So even if the ingredients are safe, the environment might not be. And then step number three, is it worth the risk to me right now? Think about that. How much is your hunger level? These are some things I think about. What's your situation? Are you traveling? Are you home? Are you at an event? What about your past reactions to you know getting a little bit of gluten? Let's say you're not celiac and it's okay if you get a little bit from medically, let's say. Um, you know, what are your past reactions? Is it really worth it? So not really fear-based, but it's an informed choice. Sometimes the answer is no, and I'm not going to eat this, and that's okay, because you can wait to eat later when it's safer. So don't feel pressured to you have to eat in that moment if you know something's not safe. So let's say someone says it's gluten-free. So let me recap my three steps. Step one, do I know it's safe? Not do I think it's safe, but do I know it's safe? Step two, what is the risk of cross-contamination? Step three, is it worth the risk to me right now? Can I wait to eat? So let's next talk about some scenarios. So, what happens if someone says it's gluten-free? What you can do is you can respond with, can you tell me how it was prepared? Or can you tell me what the ingredients are in it? We need to know these things if somebody's assuming it's gluten-free because a lot of people don't know that there are several grains that have gluten in it, not just one, not just wheat. And then let's say we're at a restaurant and you might say, I have celiac, can you tell me how you handle cross contamination? Or you might say, I have a gluten allergy. Kind of depends upon the area you're in. Some people understand gluten allergy a little bit better, even though it's technically not an allergy. If it's unclear, skip that item. Or even skip that restaurant. I like to use Find Me Gluten Free app to check ahead so that I know if a restaurant is safe for cross contact. It's a really great app, and I've so far not gotten sick on the advice in there. Then let's talk about packaged food with unclear labeling. Let's say it has no certification. Maybe it says may contain wheat or process in a facility that processes wheat. So what I do is I will skip this if there's may contain or process in a facility that processes wheat because I'm celiac and I can get you know sick from just a little bit. And if there's no certification, I'm a bit more skeptical. I'll usually do some digging on the internet to check what the consensus is on you know other celiacs out there. So I do this based upon that, as well as you know, how well do I trust this brand? Are they known for not cross-contacting gluten if they don't have gluten and ingredients? Sometimes some brands are much better than others at labeling things that are gluten-free and whether they have a cross-contact in them or not. And then what if we're at a social event or a friend's house? It's an unknown kitchen and you don't know how much they use gluten in it, probably. And it may be a real meaning host. But what I usually do is bring some food if I don't know that they, you know, absolutely know how to keep me safe. And then, or I'll ask questions if I'm not sure. If I think, oh, they might know how to deal with you know food allergies and gluten intolerances and celiac. Or you might just skip eating there. There's nothing wrong with skipping eating. We have to get over that. And then what about the situation of your tired, hungry, and tempted? This is huge and it's so, so real. This is where more likely than not we taste risk that we regret. One thing that I do to prevent this is I usually keep something in my purse that I can eat on a pinch. Like if I, you know, get really hungry and I need something in a pitch, I keep something in my purse. So keep something with you somehow, whether it's in your purse or if you don't carry a purse, maybe you're a guy and don't carry a purse, you know, keep it with you. Keep something with you. So sometimes we have two different voices in our head when this, especially when you're new to being gluten-free. You might have this pressure voice of don't make it awkward, or it's probably fine. But what we need to listen to is our safety voice. You've been here before, you know how this ends. So we have to listen to our safety voice. This is something that I learned over time and didn't really realize what I was doing. Listening to that voice that keeps you safe is going to be much better. The more you listen to it, the easier these decisions become. So here's a simple rule that has changed everything for me. If I don't feel confident, I don't eat it. It's as simple as that. Let me say that again. If I don't feel confident, I don't eat it. You're not being paranoid, you're not overthinking. You're learning how to trust your body and your experience. At the end of the day, it this isn't about memorizing every possible risk. It's about having a simple way to make decisions in the moment. So instead of feeling stuck or second-guessing yourself, you can pause, walk through it, and choose what feels right for your health. Thank you for listening to this episode of the Gluten Free Engineer. If you found value in this story, please share it with someone who might need encouragement on their own gluten-free journey. For more tips, recipes, resources, and even links to my YouTube channel, head on over to theglutenfreengineer.com. It's your one-stop hub to make gluten-free living simple, fun, and full of flavor. And don't forget to subscribe so you never miss out on an episode. And we will see you next week. The Gluten Free Engineer Podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. I share my personal experiences and stories about living with celiac disease and navigating a gluten free lifestyle. This podcast does not provide a medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for medical questions, concerns, or advice specific to your health.